Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Four steps for communication that creates connection instead of defense: Observation, Feeling, Need, Request. No accusations, no judgments — just clarity.

Marshall B. Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Marshall Rosenberg developed NVC in the 1960s as a method for resolving conflicts without attacking the other person. The core idea: separate observation from evaluation, and talk about feelings and needs instead of blame.

1
Observation
What do I perceive? (Without judgment or interpretation)
2
Feeling
How do I feel about it? (No pseudo-feelings like "I feel manipulated")
3
Need
Which need is behind it? (Universal needs, not strategies)
4
Request
What do I specifically want? (Positively phrased, doable, not a demand)

The most common mistake: disguising judgments as observations ("You are always late" instead of "You arrived 15 minutes after the agreed time on Monday and Wednesday").

NVC rephraser

Pick a typical accusation or enter your own — and see how it turns into NVC.

Inspiriert von Marshall B. Rosenberg — Nonviolent Communication

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Trivia

  • Rosenberg used giraffe and wolf hand puppets in his seminars — the giraffe has the biggest heart of all land animals.
  • NVC is taught in more than 65 countries and used in schools, prisons, companies, and crisis zones.
  • Rosenberg mediated with NVC in conflicts in Israel/Palestine, Rwanda, and Sri Lanka.
  • The book "Nonviolent Communication" has been translated into more than 35 languages and has sold over 5 million copies.
  • The most common NVC mistake: "I feel manipulated" is not a feeling — it is a judgment about the other person.